Online therapy · Bay Area & California

Couples therapy

You may care about each other and still find it hard to have a conversation without ending up in familiar territory. One of you feels unheard. The other feels criticized. Or you have stopped arguing, but the distance between you keeps growing.

I work with couples who want to understand what is happening between them and find a different way to relate. Sessions are online for couples in the Bay Area and throughout California.

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Looking at the pattern between you

In sessions, we slow down the exchanges that tend to happen quickly at home. I help each person put words to their experience and listen for what is being missed.

I am warm and direct. I will ask questions, point out patterns and make space for both of you. The focus is not on deciding who wins an argument. It is on understanding the conflict and taking responsibility for how you each respond.

Making room for the relationship

Demanding work, family responsibilities and everyday logistics can leave little time for a conversation that is not about the next thing to get done. Therapy offers a place to address what has been building up, including differences in needs, trust or expectations for the future.

We can work on communicating more clearly, making room for disagreement and exploring what repair would involve. We do not have to assume a particular outcome before we begin.

Do we need to be in crisis?

No. You can seek support because something feels strained or because you want to address a pattern before it becomes more entrenched.

What happens first?

A consultation gives us a chance to discuss what brings you in and whether this format is appropriate for your circumstances. Couples work is not the right setting for every situation, so fit matters.

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